I used to feel this same way as well. While I’m not as confident as I hope to be (I’m still terrified of public speaking!), I am a fairly confident person and I believe that has helped me a lot in life. That sounds odd to say, but I am confident enough to say it!
I have been working on gaining confidence in myself over the years and it is a great feeling. If you would have told little ol’ me when I was younger that I would be doing the things I am doing today and feel confident at the same time, I would have said you were crazy.
I believe that gaining confidence can help others as well. Learning how to be confident can lead to a person getting the job they want, making more money, reaching their dreams, public speaking, meeting new people, networking, managing a business or employees, traveling the world, and more. Gaining confidence can help a person in many, many different ways.
However, a lack of confidence may:
Prevent someone from believing in themselves.
Lead to someone being too shy to do what they want or need.
Force someone to do things they hate.
Cause someone to ruin a meeting, job possibility, and so on.
Lead to unhappiness.
Here are my tips on how to be confident. With the tips below, you will start gaining confidence in no time so that you can start tackling your goals!
1. Think positively.
Being positive can help you in many ways, especially when it comes to learning how to be confident. Negative thoughts are something that plague many each and every day, and this can wreck any confidence that you have in yourself.
Thinking positively can help you with gaining confidence because you will believe in what you are doing and saying. This will then allow you to portray confidence in whatever you are doing.
Next time you are about to do something big, think about why you deserve it, the skills and/or talents that you have, why you are the perfect fit, and so on.
2. Learn how to be confident from the best.
Is there someone out there who is doing exactly what you want to be doing?
Maybe it’s public speaking, a job that you want in the future, or just confidence in general. Whatever it is that you want to learn, you may want to seek out a mentor so that you can learn their best tips. By learning their tips, you will feel more confident in what you are doing.
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3. Look the part.
Looking the part can go a long way when learning how to be confident. It will help you look more confident even if you are just faking it and it can also help you believe in yourself as well.
I know some who feel extremely confident when they wear their best suit, when they wear high heels, when they wear their best professional outfit, and more.
Gaining confidence by looking the part may mean:
Having a firm handshake;
Standing/sitting up straight;
Smiling (covered more below).
This goes along with “looking the part” but I believe that smiling is so important that it really needs its own section.
Whether you are talking on the phone or if you are talking to someone in person, smiling is extremely important. This is because a person can tell whether or not you are smiling and it shows in the way your voice sounds.
Smiling is an easy way to show that you are confident in what you are saying. Try it!
5. Take risks.
By taking risks every now and then, you will force yourself to step outside of your comfort zone. This can help you be more confident when it comes to new situations that you may feel unsure about.
Before you head out the door, you may want to practice whatever it is that you are about to do that you are nervous about. This will help you learn how to be confident in yourself.
For example, if you are going to an interview then you may want to practice possible interview questions. Another example would be if you are networking, you may want to practice your pitch. By practicing what you are going to do and say, you will seem much more confident in yourself due to the fact that you will know what some of the answers may be. This will prevent awkwardness, hesitations, and more.
Other things you may want to practice include your handshake, what you’re going to say, your posture, and more. Gaining confidence is much easier when you practice possible situations that you may encounter.
When trying to learn how to be confident, you really just need to learn how to relax as well. When you are lacking confidence, you may start sweating, saying unintelligent things (we’ve all done that, right?!), and more.
To prevent this, you really just need to take a deep breath, count to 5, or do whatever else you need to do so that you can relax.
Do you think gaining confidence could help you? What tips do you have for someone who is wanting to learn how to be confident?